How inappropriate would it be to date a student...?
Okay now that you've opened the question let me explain, because I am definitely NOT some forty-year old teaching high school students. I, myself, am 16 years old. I will be going to Argentina this summer to teach English to other teens around my age (secondary school in Argentina). I'll be volunteering as a teacher's assistant and am wondering what you guys think about forming friendship (maybe more...?) with the kids I help to teach outside of the classroom. I am aware that gay/out teens are rarer in South America, but you never know. Thoughts? Thanks for answering. I'm a gay male. To reiterate, I'm 16 years old. So words like "commitment" and "long-term" aren't super significant to me at this point.
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered - 13 Answers
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1 :
sounds OK to me. Heh I'm From south america :D
2 :
If you are around the student's age I think it'll still be appropriate but if you are like 10 years older or 20 years older than it will be inappropriate. That considered a pedophile in my opinion.
3 :
I don't see anything wrong with it, if you become friends with anybody and if it becomes more than friendship than do whatever you want. legally of course ;)
4 :
i would say go for it......but keep in mind....if you start a relationship in argentina.....aren't you planning on going back home? that cant end well......but i say it should be fine and that you should give it a shot
5 :
Not at all! They might fell more comfortable around you!
6 :
I don't see anything wrong with it. Buen viaje! :)
7 :
Just as long as you are not like an official teacher with a major in teaching and a teaching degree, it's fine. Of course, the parents will be outraged, but if you don't care, go right ahead. :) I mean, I would.
8 :
Will you be grading them? If you are in charge of grading them, you then have power over them. If you have power over them, it is inappropriate to date them. Otherwise, I'd think it would be okay. You are very handsome, and they would probably find you exotic and attractive. But yeah, unless you pack a boy in your suitcase, it will likely only be a short-term relationship, maybe something just for fun.
9 :
No. Doesn't matter how old you are, you are there to TEACH not to 'score.' Be professional - as you are there for a very important reason- to teach English. (and in a way you represent your country). I think it's a bit presumptuous to think about meeting a boyfriend(s) who is a student before you even get there. Friendships are one thing, but friendships won't cause irate parents, and/or the potential of broken hearts,or the chance of your being 'labeled' as anything but a great teacher. What if you read a situation wrong and the student is not interested and you show interest....awkward....or the other way around. Bottom line: Romance and work just do not mix.... Best wishes! I do hope you enjoy your trip and job, and I hope that you find that special somebody- in another arena.
10 :
If you have any kind of tutor relationship with another person, anything more than friendship should be out of bounds. Age doesn't matter here (although a big age gap just makes it even skeezier) - from the student's point of view, you would be in a position of power over them. ETA: If you are really looking to date while you are there, I'm sure you can find someone of an appropriate age who is NOT your student.
11 :
I am in Australia. I like the people in other lands aside from readers in Argentina, we all have not knowledge of what is considered fair behaviour as you describe this possible future sexual encounter. That said. Age has nothing to do with the issue. Here in Australia teachers may not be involved with students. (I think even past students are out.) There is no way around it other than leaving the teaching profession. One problem you could run into if you start a relationship with a student is you may loose respect of the students as they lean of this. An even greater problem would be if the student you was scre_wing, started to spread tales of your sexual ability or maybe claim you are small in the family jewels department. As they say in the press. Why let the truth get in the way of a good story. So the truth wont matter. The rest of the students will make your working life a living hell. My advice. Keep a desk between you anyone at the school. The trouble is just not worth it as a small mistake could follow you for a long time.
12 :
It would be very inappropriate and perhaps even illegal to date or even sleep with one of your students if you teach them or are the TA/teacher's assistant. I've been a TA and schools do have rules against this sort of thing and it's not a good idea to "sh!t where you eat" or date/sleep with someone who you work with even if you're not a teacher. I did this once and I'll NEVER do it again. Think about it, if you date someone and it doesn't work out you have to see them daily, plus this is not a relationship of equals since you're the Teacher's Assistant, and it's an abuse of power. If you're that desperate to date/hook up with people while in South America go online or into a bar.
13 :
It is not appropriate if you are a teacher no matter your age. Any student you may have sex with you may have trouble failing them if they deserve it. Would you show favoritism towards any students you have sex with? Could you really fail a student that brings you to pure ultimate pleasure? I personally believe you can not. To avold any drama from teaching I suggest you not involve yourself sexually in any of your students. Some people love drama and bring it into their lives and wonder how it could of happened. Always think with your head and not your di*k. It will get you into trouble if you let it. Control your di*k do not let it control you. I'm sure there are plenty of young guys there that are not your students you can have sex with.
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